Love Those Who Love You


A lot of people base their lives off of titles.

Because a person has a title (or special place) in your life, you feel as though they should be there. When a title doesn’t mean they have to love you. A title is just that; a title.

Those who love you will love you because they love you. 

As I think about life, I realize I was once a person stuck on titles. If anyone had a title in my life I felt like they deserved a place in my life. But I don’t see it that way anymore. The way I see it now is that not everyone deserves a place in my life. And their title doesn’t mean they mean me any good.

Today so many people are searching for love through those that have titles in their life. However, while trying to gain love from that person, they’re missing out on the love they already have from others. 

I remember feeling like everybody who had a title in my life should be there for me. And when they didn’t show up in my life, it would put me in a bad space. I didn’t even appreciate who was there because the people I wanted to be there weren’t.

Then I realized the people who were there wanted to be there. I didn’t have to keep sending them reminders or anything. They sent me messages to check in and see how I was. They would ask if they could bring anything over to my house when they came to visit. They were just there for me.

So after a while I began to realize that titles are just that, titles. And that a title doesn’t guarantee that the person that holds that specific title will be there for you. 

I say all of that to say this: love those who love you.

Don’t worry about who you feel should be there. Appreciate those who are. Don’t get wrapped up in titles because your expectations of what a person should be in your life isn’t always what it will be. 

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Marissa was born in Charleston, South Carolina on Sept, 27, 1986 to James Sweat and the late Tracy Graham. She is the youngest girl of six, two sisters and three brothers. She grew up in Holly Hill, and graduated from Holly Hill Roberts High. Marissa furthered her education at Midlands Technical College, receiving a certificate in Early Childhood Education in 2017 and an associate degree in Early Childhood Education in 2018. She has been married for seven years to her husband Terence Evans. Together they have three children (Jaylen, Jada and Ny’Asia Evans). Her oldest and only boy, Jaylen, has cerebral palsy, epilepsy, and autism. Marissa and her husband are also the founders of the movement #Dontstare which is to raise awareness to how rude staring can be.


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