My Choice :: Stay at Home Mom


simoneOn a normal day my husband takes our six year old son, Grayson, to school at 8:00. Later at 10:00 he wakes our daughter up and feeds her breakfast, and I either get up with them or sleep until 11:00 or 11:30, needing the extra rest for when both kids are home. At noon we all take a nap, and at 3:00 Grayson comes home.

Then, it’s total insanity.

My youngest is a toddler going through the whiny/screaming phase, and my son Grayson is all boy. In other words, loud blasting noises and Star Wars noises are the sounds of our home.

But I wouldn’t change that because it’s ours.

It’s exhausting. Some days (like today) I feel completely done, but once they go to bed I’m gearing up for the next day and ready to do it all over again. Before, as a working parent, I dreaded each day, stressed out trying to balance a job, a household, and being a mommy. It was too much for me, which is why I choose not to work.

I’ve taken a lot of flak over this decision. It is mind boggling to me why it is anyone else’s business, but that’s neither here nor there.

When I had Grayson, I was a single mom and I had to work to support us. There was no other parent, no other form of support. My life consisted of going to work, going to pick Grayson up, sitting in the parking lot for five minutes sometimes to take a deep breath, finally going in to get him, getting home and microwaving a meal, begging him to eat said meal, dealing with him wreaking havoc while trying to unwind, then going to bed only to do it all over again.

I was miserable and unhappy. I felt like the time I actually spent with my son had no actual quality to it. I was aggravated, overwhelmed, exhausted, and downright depressed sometimes. This wasn’t the mom I wanted to be.

When I got married a few years later I continued to work, even though my husband let me know it was my choice, not an obligation anymore.

2014-03-06_21-05-08 (2)Even with a second parent in the home, I was still the primary caretaker. He worked nights and slept during the day, so the majority of the child rearing was left to me. While getting married solved the financial strain of being a single parent, it provided little relief from the day to day stresses of raising a child.

When I became pregnant with our now 14 month old, there was zero debate as to whether or not I would continue working. Aside from the fact there would be zero money for childcare, more importantly, for me, there would be zero time to be a mother, which means more to me than any amount of money.

Being home with my children has afforded me so many opportunities to be a better mom. I prepare a home cooked meal for my family every night. I sit down and read with my kids rather than having to rush to put dinner on the table and get them bathed and off to bed with no time to spare. There is no question about how am I going to get time off to go to the zillions of specialists that were needed at different times for my kids. I wake up in the morning and I smile at my children because I no longer feel that the weight of the world is on my shoulders.

I am not saying working moms or their children are at a disadvantage. Not at all! I’m well aware that some moms are able to successfully balance work and family. For me, I just wasn’t able to handle both and still be the mother I wanted for my children.

It is a financial hit now that we are only on one income. I can’t always make a playdate because I have to reserve gas in my car for the rest of the week. If I see a $20 pair of shoes, I can’t always buy them. Dates? We can’t afford them.

Someone said to me that I allow my family to financially struggle because I don’t want to work, which couldn’t be further from the truth. To this statement I respond, “No, I don’t want to work because I want to be a mother. My kind of mother, that I define. A mom I could be proud of.”

Now is the first time I’ve ever been able to say this: I’m a happy mother.


simone profileSimone Praylow is a wife and mom to two kids ages 6 and 14 months. She is originally from New Jersey but relocated to Key West and later Columbia. Simone is an avid reader, couponer and blogger. She also enjoys painting when she has a spare minute. You’ll often to find her either on a book or on Pinterest finding yummy recipes for her family. She loves the outdoors, but at heart of is a complete homebody!


  1. While I understand that everyone has their own story, the fact that you chose THIS one to “represent” the SAHM is offensive. This doesn’t come close to resembling my life, or the life of 99.9% of the SAHMs I know. You chose to put out a story that makes SAHMs look very bad and I am very disappointed.

    • I apologize if you found this article offensive. The main point we wanted to convey is the feelings behind what made this mother choose to be a SAHM versus a working mom, (which was discussed in the entire article except the first three sentences in the first paragraph).

      True, her sleep schedule may be different than yours (or other mothers out there), but her youngest child sleeps later in the morning. We also saw a husband and wife that share the parenting responsibilities, with him taking a shift with their son earlier in the morning (taking him to school) while she cares for the children in the evening when he is at work.

      On our blog, we strive not to judge others parenting decisions, as what works for one family may not work for another. We found Simone to be a loving mother who takes great care of her children. In fact, as a SAHM myself, I was jealous her child slept past my 7 a.m. toddler and wanted to know her secret.

  2. Simone, I would have loved to read about how couponing helps your single income family. I know that before I went back to work, coupons were the only way we could make ends meet in NY.

  3. Hi!

    I go to and select all the items i want to buy. When you’re there, it has all the coupon match ups next to each item. I print my list and I add it up and if i’m over my weekly amount, I start cutting stuff. Meat is not an every night item. It’s an every other night item so that saves us a lot of money because meat isn’t cheap. My rule when shopping for food is, do we need it ? I would love to have white cheddar popcorn and bob evans mac and cheese in the house ALL the time, but it’s not financially feasible at all. We eat what is on sale. I do our meal plan for the week every Sunday and I shop by what’s on sale, not the other way around It’s hard when I want to make a pinterest meal and I don’t have the ingredients, but after you really get into it and you’re shopping weekly (which you have to do if you’re couponing), most of the time I have all the ingredients in the house. I’m actually writing a couponing piece.

  4. Hi Simone,

    Couponing has been very interesting since viewing the techniques on TLC (Extreme Couponing). I would love to learn more. I too am a stay at home mom to two toddlers. I had to quit to take care of my oldest child, due to some medical issues. Now I work part-time from home; however, my husband is our financial rock. As you know, going from two incomes to one is a strain so I would for you to start couponing, as well as talk to someone else who is home during the day. Would you please inbox me?

  5. Hello, I was wondering if you started your couponing piece you mention in the above newsfeed/post. I am interested in couponing for my family. Also, do you have a guide sheet on meal planning also?

  6. Hi Tiffany,

    I am just wondering if the moms of this group every “Meet Up” or have outings/activities outside of the blog? I am a stay at home mom and would love to meet other moms to discuss couponing, family, kids, or just mingling outside of home.


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