The “Mother” Load



Let’s talk about the mental load us moms are dealing with right now…

Some of us are balancing schoolwork with jobs. Some of us are experiencing a financial crisis with the loss of jobs/income. There may be some of us who are desperate for childcare so we can go to work. Some of us probably feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done. And, of course, some of us are trying to find all the ways to entertain our children. Along with that, we may be trying to keep them from destroying the house (I have definitely noticed more wear and tear in my home).

Some of us are missing our families. Maybe some of us have had family members or friends that have tested positive for COVID-19. We may be wondering if we have taken the right precautions to protect our families. Many are worried about loved ones that may have underlying conditions or compromised immune systems.

All of these things and more add to our mental load and stress level. Not to mention that real life is still happening, the good and the bad. We are literally coping with the “mother” load of stress during a time of global crisis. 

This is a new age for stress and mental health issues for everyone, not just moms and parents. This global pandemic has changed the way we do almost everything, including coping with the issues that life throws our way. Closures have limited what we can do outside of the home and have forced us to find new ways to entertain, enjoy each other’s company, work, learn, exercise, shop, and cope with stress. Depression, anxiety, OCD, eating disorders are just a few of the issues that are heightened right now.  

We have to support each other now more than ever and get creative in how we do so.

I am a firm believer in the impact “the little things” can have on someone. If you notice a friend or family member doesn’t seem themselves, talk to them, write them a letter, ask if everything is OK, and listen. Even sending a little gift could encourage them. Or maybe you can bake your neighbor some brownies just to show that you care. Just a little bit of effort can not only help someone else but also make YOU feel better. 

We have to also spread love and compassion to ourselves.

That load of laundry can wait while you do something for you. Schoolwork can wait while you take some time to read or chat with a friend on the phone for a while. The kids can have a PB&J for dinner when you don’t feel like cooking a big meal after a long workday.

We put so much pressure on ourselves sometimes, and literally add to our own stress level. We need to take a deep breath, have a little faith, and give ourselves a little bit of grace. Every little action can make a difference and help lighten the “mother” load we are all struggling with day today.

How do you handle stress and anxiety? Share your tips in the comments!


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