What Do You Do When Your Mouth Has Been Trained to Deny What Your Heart Feels?


What Do You Do When Your Mouth Has Been Trained to Deny What Your Heart Feels? | Columbia MomWhen you are asked ”How are you doing?” what is your response?

Do you smile and give the typical, “I’m good” even though things may not really be alright? Or do you actually open up and let people know how things really are? Your response may vary depending on who’s asking. But, that also enables our tendency to continue acting as if all is well.

I’d wager most of us just give the standard “things are good” response. But consistent denial creates walls that become harder to knock down. The higher the wall is built, the more difficult it is to see where it may have started. You have to be able to see where the issues began. Pinpointing this becomes your blueprint to be BETTER!

“Default Answers keep the grip held onto a false reality”

– Litaspeaks

Why are you protecting what’s hurting you?

When I talk with my children, I always encourage them to express how they are feeling. I always make them comfortable in knowing I’ll listen to their side of the story or their opinions. I don’t want them to grow up thinking that by burying emotions, they are OK.

Even our technology is programmed to help us keep the “I’m good” appearance. I know on my iphone when a call comes in, I am given the option to send a generic response.

I don’t want to go through life living generically! You shouldn’t either! Life is meant to be lived to the fullest, even amid the good, the bad and the ugly. Life is meant to be felt.
Don’t become numb to YOU!

Mental health needs are real. Taking care of YOU should be a priority!

When you need to vent, entrust in a partner, friend, spiritual voice, or even a journal to write it out.

I’m not saying to go around and be a “sad case” but make sure you don’t keep denying how you are feeling until you ignore when you need help.

How do you take care of your mental health needs?

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"Write it Out to Get It Out!" is this vibrant young woman' s motto. Charlita Bowman is a 31 year old woman who resides in the northeast. Living life with her high school sweetheart and husband, Jacob, and their 4 wonderful children, Te'Asia (13), Israel (8)  Landen (4) and Khloe (6 months) has been amazing (although chaotic at times). Charlita currently works with SCDHHS, and holds an AA in Medical Assisting. Reading, spending time with family, writing, music, God and nature are just some of the things that bring her joy. You can find her actively involved as a minister at her church, volunteering as a sexual trauma advocate and using her creative platform , Litaspeaks to blog, write poetry and offer creative services. Charlita has newly launched her Litaspeaks T-shirt line " Lita-Ology!" and will be debuting her first book later this year! Above all else, Charlita cherishes her role of being a mom and a wife!


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