Recently I jumped on the train of what seems to be millions of women to read Rachel Hollis’ Girl, Wash Your Face. My expectations were high as I’ve heard and read amazing reviews on it. It’s been promoted by Christian blogs and writers, so I was anxious to get my hands on a copy.
Immediately, the humor of the author was captivating, but as I got further along I noticed the consistent, underlying tone of the book was one of being your own hero and being in complete control of your life. This rubbed against what I hold to be Biblical truth. Even so, I did finish it and am honestly grateful I did because my take-aways, like many people, were life changing.
The book had some great reminders to me such as not comparing myself to others. Comparisons seem to be a common topic especially among women. We have all battled against it at some point and I’ve always viewed it as something negative I should attempt to avoid.
This book showed me that sometimes comparison IS warranted. Comparing the statements in this book to my belief system was critical for me to discern opinion from fact.
Like Hollis stated, comparing myself to others isn’t healthy, but it’s not merely something to avoid for my own mental health. Comparing myself to another broken, mortal man is futile. Instead, my only comparison should be to the perfect model, Jesus. He is who I am to look to imitate and model my life after.
Comparing everything, every written or spoken word, up to the authority of my beliefs is necessary. I learned that just because a book is published by Christian publishers and backed by Christian authors doesn’t mean it’s accurate or safe for me to ingest. This book made me cross reference my Bible to check scripture quoted and thoughts expressed.
I compared the broad and narrow paths in life and was reminded that while the majority of women may use this book as their life mantra, I already had a book that does that. My Bible tells me who God is because He really is the center, not me. Unlike what I read, I don’t need to ‘decide who I am’ because He has told me who I am.
I compared the author’s constant mention of ‘happiness’ with my Author’s constant mention of joy. They are very different and unlike what is preached in this book, my happiness is not the core of what is of importance. My happiness is fickle. It shifts based on so many varying circumstances and is concentrated on me and, again, it is not all about me.
I’ve always considered comparisons a dangerous thing to engage in, but, in this case, it was essential. Comparing someone’s opinion and advice with the unwavering truth of God made me realize how easily I can feed myself untruth and ultimately alter my beliefs.
A book that says “the driving force of this book is to remind you that you’re in control of yourself“ actually grew my faith in a sovereign God much bigger than myself.
Discerning fact from opinion reminded me who the true hero is and it is absolutely not me, thank goodness! I was reminded that I don’t deserve an ounce of praise for anything in my life because all the glory is His. Contrasting all of these views, reminded me to be humble and gracious for all that has been granted to me because He is the giver. No longer do I view comparison as necessarily a negative behavior, but sometimes it is eye opening and revealing.
Yes, I will wash my face, but instead of then looking in the mirror, I will look to my Creator.